\u0110\u1ec1 b\u00e0i: Anh\/ch\u1ecb ngh\u0129 g\u00ec v\u1ec1 c\u00e2u n\u00f3i c\u1ee7a Tu\u00e2n T\u1eed: ” Ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u00ea ta m\u00e0 ch\u00ea ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 th\u1ea7y c\u1ee7a ta, ng\u01b0\u1eddi khen ta m\u00e0 khen ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 b\u1ea1n c\u1ee7a ta, nh\u1eefng k\u1ebb vu\u1ed1t ve n\u1ecbnh b\u1ee3 ta ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 k\u1ebb th\u00f9 c\u1ee7a ta v\u1eady.”<\/p>\n

D\u00e0n b\u00e0i ngh\u1ecb lu\u1eadn x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i v\u1ec1 khan v\u00e0 ch\u00ea<\/strong><\/h2>\n

Th\u1ee9 nh\u1ea5t: Ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u00ea ta m\u00e0 ch\u00ea ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 th\u1ea7y ta.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Ch\u00ea \u1edf \u0111\u00e2y c\u00f3 ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 ch\u1ec9 ra c\u00e1i d\u1edf, c\u00e1i ch\u01b0a \u0111\u00fang trong suy ngh\u0129, l\u1eddi n\u00f3i v\u00e0 h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng c\u1ee7a ta. T\u1ea1i sao ta l\u1ea1i kh\u00f3 ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi ch\u00ea bai, ch\u1ec9 tr\u00edch? \u1ea4y l\u00e0 v\u00ec t\u00ednh t\u1ef1 \u00e1i, t\u00ednh s\u0129 di\u1ec7n ai c\u0169ng c\u00f3. Nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi thi\u1ebfu s\u00e1ng su\u1ed1t th\u01b0\u1eddng ch\u1ee7 quan, t\u1ef1 m\u00e3n, c\u00e1i g\u00ec c\u0169ng cho l\u00e0 m\u00ecnh gi\u1ecfi, m\u00ecnh hay, n\u00ean coi nh\u1eb9 s\u1ef1 g\u00f3p \u00fd c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c, d\u00f9 l\u00e0 \u0111\u00fang. Tu\u00e2n T\u1eed \u0111\u1ec1 cao vai tr\u00f2 c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi d\u00e1m m\u1ea1nh d\u1ea1n \u0111\u01b0a ra nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi ch\u00ea \u0111\u00fang \u0111\u1eafn m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng s\u1ee3 ng\u01b0\u1eddi nghe m\u1ea5t l\u00f2ng, b\u1edfi m\u1ee5c \u0111\u00edch c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd l\u00e0 x\u00e2y d\u1ef1ng ch\u1ee9 kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 ph\u1ee7 nh\u1eadn. L\u1eddi g\u00f3p \u00fd c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n tr\u00ecnh \u0111\u1ed9 nh\u1eadn th\u1ee9c, ph\u00e2n t\u00edch, \u0111\u00e1nh gi\u00e1 v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 mang t\u00ednh ch\u1ea5t kh\u00e1ch quan, kh\u00f4ng v\u1ee5 l\u1ee3i. N\u1ebfu ng\u01b0\u1eddi nghe bi\u1ebft ph\u00e2n bi\u1ec7t \u0111\u00fang sai v\u00e0 l\u00e0m theo th\u00ec c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c s\u1ebd \u0111\u1ea1t k\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1eb9p h\u01a1n. Nh\u01b0 v\u1eady, ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u00ea ta m\u00e0 ch\u00ea ph\u1ea3i h\u1eb3n l\u00e0 c\u00f3 thi\u1ec7n \u00fd, thi\u1ec7n c\u1ea3m v\u1edbi ta n\u00ean x\u1ee9ng \u0111\u00e1ng l\u00e0 th\u1ea7y ta.<\/p>\n

Th\u1ee9 hai: Ng\u01b0\u1eddi khen ta m\u00e0 khen ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 b\u1ea1n ta.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Khen v\u00e0 ch\u00ea l\u00e0 hai m\u1eb7t t\u1ea5t y\u1ebfu c\u1ee7a d\u01b0 lu\u1eadn. Th\u00f3i th\u01b0\u1eddng: khen bao nhi\u00eau c\u0169ng kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ee7; ch\u00ea m\u1ed9t ch\u00fat c\u0169ng l\u00e0 th\u1eeba. Nh\u01b0ng khen c\u0169ng c\u00f3 nhi\u1ec1u lo\u1ea1i: khen \u0111\u00fang v\u00e0 khen sai. Khen \u0111\u00fang Tu\u00e2n T\u1eed g\u1ecdi l\u00e0 khen ph\u1ea3i. C\u00f2n khen sai l\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 g\u00ec \u0111\u00e1ng khen c\u0169ng c\u1ed1 khen, c\u1ed1t \u0111\u1ec3 l\u1ea5y l\u00f2ng. Ki\u1ec3u n\u00e0y th\u01b0\u1eddng th\u1ea5y \u1edf nh\u1eefng k\u1ebb v\u00f4 li\u00eam s\u1ec9, m\u01b0u c\u1ea7u vinh th\u00e2n ph\u00ec gia b\u1eb1ng m\u1ecdi th\u1ee7 \u0111o\u1ea1n, k\u1ec3 c\u1ea3 nh\u1eefng th\u1ee7 \u0111o\u1ea1n h\u00e8n h\u1ea1 nh\u1ea5t l\u00e0 vu\u1ed1t ve, n\u1ecbnh b\u1ee3, xu ph\u1ee5 c\u1ea5p tr\u00ean.<\/p>\n

Khen ph\u1ea3i, khen \u0111\u00fang c\u00f3 t\u00e1c d\u1ee5ng \u0111\u1ed9ng vi\u00ean, c\u1ed5 v\u0169 r\u1ea5t t\u00edch c\u1ef1c. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c khen t\u0103ng th\u00eam ni\u1ec1m tin v\u00e0o b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n, t\u1eeb \u0111\u00f3 c\u00f3 h\u01b0\u1edbng ph\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ea5u m\u1ea1nh m\u1ebd h\u01a1n. Khen sai, khen b\u1eady g\u00e2y ra \u1ea3o t\u01b0\u1edfng, l\u1ea7m l\u1eabn tai h\u1ea1i cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c khen, th\u1eadm ch\u00ed c\u00f2n x\u00fac ph\u1ea1m \u0111\u1ebfn l\u00f2ng t\u1ef1 tr\u1ecdng c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd.<\/p>\n

\u0110\u1ec3 c\u00f3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi khen ph\u1ea3i, ng\u01b0\u1eddi khen c\u1ea7n c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t tr\u00ecnh \u0111\u1ed9 nh\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ecbnh bi\u1ebft ph\u00e2n bi\u1ec7t \u0111\u00fang sai, n\u00ean hay kh\u00f4ng n\u00ean. Nh\u01b0 v\u1eady th\u00ec l\u1eddi khen c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh m\u1edbi th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 c\u00f3 gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb v\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c khen c\u0169ng vui l\u00f2ng v\u00ec \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ti\u1ebfp th\u00eam s\u1ee9c m\u1ea1nh t\u1eeb m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n ch\u00e2n th\u00e0nh.<\/p>\n

Trong s\u1eed s\u00e1ch n\u01b0\u1edbc ta c\u00f3 nhi\u1ec1u t\u1ea5m g\u01b0\u01a1ng trung th\u1ef1c nh\u01b0 Chu V\u0103n An, Nguy\u1ec5n Tr\u00e3i, Tr\u1ea7n Th\u1ee7 \u0110\u1ed9, T\u00f4 Hi\u1ebfn Th\u00e0nh, Tr\u1ea7n Qu\u1ed1c Tu\u1ea5n\u2026 m\u1ed9t l\u00f2ng v\u00ec d\u00e2n v\u00ec n\u01b0\u1edbc, d\u00e1m khen \u0111i\u1ec1u ph\u1ea3i, ch\u00ea \u0111i\u1ec1u tr\u00e1i c\u1ee7a c\u00e1c quan \u0111\u1ea1i th\u1ea7n trong tri\u1ec1u v\u00e0 k\u1ec3 c\u1ea3 vua ch\u00faa m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng s\u1ee3 nguy hi\u1ec3m \u0111\u1ebfn s\u1ef1 nghi\u1ec7p v\u00e0 t\u00ednh m\u1ea1ng. Nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf x\u1ee9ng \u0111\u00e1ng l\u00e0 b\u1eadc ch\u00ednh nh\u00e2n qu\u00e2n t\u1eed, r\u1ea5t \u0111\u00e1ng tin c\u1eady.<\/p>\n

V\u1ebf th\u1ee9 ba: Nh\u1eefng k\u1ebb vu\u1ed1t ve, n\u1ecbnh b\u1ee3 ta ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 k\u1ebb th\u00f9 c\u1ee7a ta v\u1eady.<\/strong><\/p>\n

B\u00ecnh lu\u1eadn c\u00e2u n\u00f3i c\u1ee7a Tu\u00e2n T\u1eed Ng\u01b0\u1eddi khen ta m\u00e0 khen ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 b\u1ea1n ta. Nh\u1eefng k\u1ebb vu\u1ed1t ve, n\u1ecbnh b\u1ee3 ta ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 k\u1ebb th\u00f9 c\u1ee7a ta v\u1eady. C\u00e2u nh\u1eadn x\u00e9t n\u00e0y ch\u1ee9ng t\u1ecf Tu\u00e2n T\u1eed l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi t\u1eebng tr\u1ea3i, hi\u1ec3u th\u1ea5u s\u1ef1 \u0111\u1eddi. Th\u1eddi n\u00e0o c\u0169ng v\u1eady, b\u00ean c\u1ea1nh nh\u1eefng g\u01b0\u01a1ng s\u00e1ng c\u1ee7a trung th\u1ea7n ngh\u0129a s\u0129 c\u00f2n c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng g\u01b0\u01a1ng x\u1ea5u b\u1ecb b\u00eau danh mu\u00f4n thu\u1edf. Nh\u1eefng k\u1ebb vu\u1ed1t ve, n\u1ecbnh b\u1ee3 ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c th\u01b0\u1eddng l\u00e0 m\u1ea5t nh\u00e2n c\u00e1ch, kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n bi\u1ebft \u0111\u1ebfn hai ch\u1eef li\u00eam s\u1ec9. B\u1ea3n ch\u1ea5t c\u1ee7a l\u0169 ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00e0y l\u00e0 th\u01b0\u1ee3ng \u0111\u1ed9i, h\u1ea1 \u0111\u1ea1p (n\u1ecbnh tr\u00ean, n\u1ea1t d\u01b0\u1edbi) \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ea1t danh, \u0111\u1ea1t l\u1ee3i, th\u1ecfa m\u00e3n m\u1ee5c \u0111\u00edch c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n \u00edch k\u1ec9. Ch\u00fang th\u01b0\u1eddng nh\u00e8 v\u00e0o ch\u1ed7 y\u1ebfu c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 ch\u1ee9c, c\u00f3 quy\u1ec1n l\u00e0 th\u00f3i th\u00edch \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c khen, \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c n\u1ecbnh \u0111\u1ec3 khen b\u1eeba, n\u1ecbnh \u1ea9u, b\u1ea5t ch\u1ea5p h\u1eadu qu\u1ea3 ra sao. R\u1ed1t cu\u1ed9c, k\u1ebb \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c vu\u1ed1t ve, n\u1ecbnh b\u1ee3 nh\u01b0 b\u1ecb r\u01a1i v\u00e0o ma tr\u1eadn, ch\u1eb3ng bi\u1ebft l\u1ed1i ra, kh\u00f4ng ph\u00e2n bi\u1ec7t n\u1ed5i th\u1eadt, h\u01b0, \u0111\u00fang, sai. \u0110\u00e3 sai l\u1ea1i c\u00e0ng sai, c\u00f3 khi l\u00e2m v\u00e0o \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng c\u00f9ng, v\u00e0o v\u1ef1c th\u1eb3m kh\u00f4ng l\u1ed1i tho\u00e1t. Nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf th\u00ec: Nh\u1eefng k\u1ebb vu\u1ed1t ve, n\u1ecbnh b\u1ee3 ta ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 k\u1ebb th\u00f9 c\u1ee7a ta v\u1eady.<\/p>\n

C\u00e2u n\u00f3i c\u1ee7a Tu\u00e2n T\u1eed c\u00e1ch \u0111\u00e2y \u0111\u00e3 h\u00e0ng ng\u00e0n n\u0103m nh\u01b0ng \u00fd ngh\u0129a gi\u00e1o d\u1ee5c cho \u0111\u1ebfn nay v\u1eabn c\u00f2n nguy\u00ean v\u1eb9n, \u0111\u00e1ng \u0111\u1ec3 cho h\u1eadu th\u1ebf ch\u00fang ta suy ng\u1eabm v\u00e0 h\u1ecdc t\u1eadp. \u0110i\u1ec1u c\u1ed1t y\u1ebfu m\u00e0 Tu\u00e2n T\u1eed mu\u1ed1n truy\u1ec1n \u0111\u1ea1t l\u00e0 l\u00e0m ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u00ec ph\u1ea3i c\u00f3 t\u00ednh t\u1ef1 ch\u1ee7 cao, c\u00f3 l\u1eadp tr\u01b0\u1eddng v\u1eefng v\u00e0ng v\u00e0 tr\u00ed tu\u1ec7 s\u00e1ng su\u1ed1t \u0111\u1ec3 x\u00e1c \u0111\u1ecbnh \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c h\u01b0\u1edbng \u0111i v\u00e0 m\u1ee5c \u0111\u00edch \u0111\u00fang \u0111\u1eafn cho cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi m\u00ecnh.<\/p>\n

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B\u00e0i v\u0103n m\u1eabu Ngh\u1ecb lu\u1eadn x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i v\u1ec1 khen v\u00e0 ch\u00ea<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Trung Hoa l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t trong nh\u1eefng c\u00e1i n\u00f4i c\u1ee7a v\u0103n ho\u00e1 nh\u00e2n lo\u1ea1i. T\u1eeb th\u1eddi c\u1ed5 \u0111\u1ea1i, ng\u01b0\u1eddi d\u00e2n Trung Qu\u1ed1c c\u00f3 quy\u1ec1n t\u1ef1 h\u00e0o v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng b\u1eadc h\u1ecdc gi\u1ea3, v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u1ea7y l\u1ed7i l\u1ea1c, uy\u00ean b\u00e1c v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng tri\u1ebft l\u00ed nh\u00e2n sinh tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh ch\u00e2n l\u00fd cho m\u1ecdi th\u1eddi \u0111\u1ea1i. Tu\u00e2n T\u1eed l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t trong s\u1ed1 nh\u1eefng b\u1eadc v\u0129 \u0111\u1ea1i \u1ea5y. V\u00e0 c\u00e2u n\u00f3i c\u1ee7a \u00f4ng: “Ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u00ea ta m\u00e0 ch\u00ea ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 th\u1ea7y ta, ng\u01b0\u1eddi khen ta m\u00e0 khen ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 b\u1ea1n ta, nh\u1eefng k\u1ebb vu\u1ed1t ve, n\u1ecbnh b\u1ee3 l\u00e0 k\u1ebb th\u00f9 c\u1ee7a ta v\u1eady”, c\u0169ng \u0111\u1ee7 cho h\u1eadu th\u1ebf ph\u1ea3i suy ngh\u0129.<\/p>\n

X\u00e3 h\u1ed9i lo\u00e0i ng\u01b0\u1eddi ng\u00e0y c\u00e0ng ph\u00e1t tri\u1ec3n v\u1ec1 kinh t\u1ebf, v\u1ec1 t\u01b0 t\u01b0\u1eddng, nh\u1eadn th\u1ee9c v\u00e0 c\u0169ng song h\u00e0nh v\u1edbi ph\u00e1t tri\u1ec3n s\u1ef1 ph\u1ee9c t\u1ea1p trong m\u1ecdi quan h\u1ec7 \u0111\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng. \u201cMi\u1ec7ng l\u01b0\u1ee1i th\u1ebf gian” l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 tr\u00e1nh kh\u1ecfi. M\u1ed7i con ng\u01b0\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng chung trong \u0111\u1ed3ng lo\u1ea1i c\u1ea7n ph\u1ea3i bi\u1ebft ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn l\u1eddi ch\u00ea ti\u1ebfng khen c\u1ee7a m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi, nh\u01b0ng \u0111\u1ec3 nh\u1eadn bi\u1ebft s\u1ef1 “th\u1eadt” – “gi\u1ea3” trong m\u1ed7i l\u1eddi khen ti\u1ebfng ch\u00ea, \u0111\u1ec3 c\u00f3 \u1ee9ng x\u1eed th\u00edch h\u1ee3p, qu\u1ea3 kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01a1n gi\u1ea3n. C\u00e2u n\u00f3i c\u1ee7a Tu\u00e2n T\u1eed \u0111\u00e3 gi\u00fap ch\u00fang ta c\u00e1i k\u00ednh chi\u00eau y\u00eau” nh\u1eadn bi\u1ebft \u0111\u00e2u l\u00e0 “th\u1ea7y”, \u0111\u00e2u l\u00e0 “b\u1ea1n”, \u0111\u00e2u l\u00e0 “th\u00f9” trong cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi \u0111\u1ea7y ph\u1ee9c t\u1ea1p \u0111\u00f3.<\/p>\n

L\u00e0 m\u1ed9t con ng\u01b0\u1eddi, k\u1ebf c\u1ea3 b\u1eadc vua ch\u00faa, v\u0129 nh\u00e2n, trong cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng, th\u1eadt kh\u00f3 tr\u00e1nh kh\u1ecfi nh\u1eefng sai l\u1ea7m. Nh\u1eefng l\u00fac nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf h\u1eb3n ch\u00fang ta nh\u1eadn \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi nh\u1eadn x\u00e9t c\u1ee7a m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi. T\u1ea5t y\u00eau, m\u1ed7i ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c nhau, s\u1ebd c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng nh\u1eadn x\u00e9t, th\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed9 kh\u00e1c nhau v\u1ec1 ta. \u0110i\u1ec1u quan tr\u1ecdng l\u00e0 \u1edf ch\u00ednh b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n ta: bi\u1ebft nh\u1eadn ra c\u00e1i \u0111\u00fang, c\u00e1i sai c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh; quan tr\u1ecdng h\u01a1n, trong v\u00f4 s\u1ed1 nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi “khen\u201d “ch\u00ea” \u0111\u00f3, ta nh\u1eadn ra ai l\u00e0 “th\u1ea7y ta”, ai l\u00e0 “b\u1ea1n ta”, ai l\u00e0 “k\u1ebb th\u00f9” c\u1ee7a ta v\u1eady!<\/p>\n

L\u1eddi d\u1ea1y c\u1ee7a Tu\u00e2n T\u1eeb th\u1eadt ch\u00ed l\u00ed: “Ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u00ea ta m\u00e0 ch\u00ea \u0111\u00fang l\u00e0 th\u1ea7y ta, ng\u01b0\u1eddi khen ta m\u00e0 khen \u0111\u00fang l\u00e0 b\u1ea1n ta”. M\u1ed7i ng\u01b0\u1eddi, khi ph\u1ea1m \u0111i\u1ec1u sai, t\u1ef1 m\u00ecnh kh\u00f4ng d\u1ec5 g\u00ec nh\u1eadn ra. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi nh\u1eadn ra c\u00e1i sai c\u1ee7a ta, l\u1ea1i “ch\u00ea”- t\u1ee9c kh\u1eb3ng \u0111\u1ecbnh c\u00e1i sai c\u1ee7a ta v\u00e0 chi cho ta bi\u1ebft – h\u1eb3n ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 t\u1ea7m tri th\u1ee9c, hi\u1ec3u bi\u1ebft h\u01a1n ta. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00f3 x\u1ee9ng \u0111\u00e1ng l\u00e0 b\u1eadc “th\u1ea7y” c\u1ee7a ta v\u1ec1 tr\u00ed tu\u1ec7. H\u01a1n th\u1ebf ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u1ea5y v\u00e0 d\u00e1m ch\u1ec9 cho ta nh\u1eadn ra c\u00e1i sai c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh, \u0111\u1ec3 m\u00ecnh c\u00f3 h\u01b0\u1edbng kh\u1eafc ph\u1ee5c, s\u1eeda ch\u1eefa, h\u1eb3n \u0111\u00f3 ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 c\u00e1i t\u00e2m th\u1eadt cao qu\u00fd: nh\u1eefng mu\u00f4n cho ch\u00fang ta nhanh ch\u00f3ng ti\u1ebfn b\u1ed9. Ch\u00fang ta, v\u1ec1 th\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed9, t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 kh\u00f4ng t\u00f4n tr\u1ecdng ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 b\u1eadc “th\u1ea7y” v\u1ec1 nh\u00e2n c\u00e1ch \u0111\u1ec3 ta h\u1ecdc t\u1eadp.<\/p>\n

Ng\u01b0\u1eddi “khen ta m\u00e0 khen ph\u1ea3i”- ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng nh\u1eefng kh\u00f4ng k\u1ecb, hi\u1ec1m kh\u00edch tr\u01b0\u1edbc nh\u1eefng c\u00e1i t\u1ed1t, c\u00e1i m\u1ea1nh c\u1ee7a ta, m\u00e0 c\u00f2n “khen”, c\u00f9ng chung vui, chia ng\u1ecdt s\u1ebb b\u00f9i… \u0110\u00f3 h\u1eb3n l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n t\u1ed1t, ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n tri \u00e2m, tri k\u1ec9 c\u1ee7a ta v\u1eady. Cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi m\u1ed7i ch\u00fang ta, n\u1ebfu c\u00f3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi “th\u1ea7y”, ng\u01b0\u1eddi “b\u1ea1n” nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf th\u00ec h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac bi\u1ebft bao nhi\u00eau.<\/p>\n

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Tuy nhi\u00ean, trong cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng, kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i ai khen hay ch\u00ea ta \u0111\u1ec1u l\u00e0 “th\u1ea7y\u201d, l\u00e0 “b\u1ea1n” c\u1ee7a ta. Tu\u00e2n T\u1eed \u0111\u00e3 m\u1ed9t l\u1ea7n n\u1eefa ch\u1ec9 cho ta bi\u1ebft c\u00e1ch nh\u1eadn ra ” b\u1ed9 m\u1eb7t th\u1eadt c\u1ee7a nh\u1eefng “k\u1ebb” hi\u1ec3m \u0111\u1ed9c \u0111\u00f3. \u0110\u00f3 l\u00e0 “k\u1ebb vu\u1ed1t ve, n\u1ecbnh b\u1ee3 ta”, Tu\u00e2n T\u1eed t\u1ecf th\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed9 r\u00f5 r\u1ec7t, d\u1ee9t kho\u00e1t khi g\u1ecdi nh\u1eefng lo\u1ea1i ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00f3 “l\u00e0 k\u1ebb th\u00f9 c\u1ee7a ta v\u1eady”. Nh\u01b0ng \u0111\u1ec3 nh\u00ecn ra \u0111\u00e2u l\u00e0 b\u1ea1n “khen ta m\u00e0 khen \u0111\u00fang” v\u1edbi “nh\u1eefng k\u1ebb vu\u1ed1t ve, n\u1ecbnh b\u1ee3\u201d th\u00ec kh\u00f4ng d\u1ec5. Tr\u01b0\u1edbc h\u1ebft, k\u1ebb vu\u1ed1t ve, n\u1ecbnh b\u1ee3, h\u1ecd khen ta l\u00e0 xu\u1ea5t ph\u00e1t m\u1ee5c \u0111\u00edch mong c\u1ea7u l\u1ee3i \u00edch ri\u00eang c\u1ee7a ch\u00ednh h\u1ecd. B\u1edfi v\u1eady, th\u00e0nh t\u00edch c\u1ee7a ta ch\u1ec9 c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t, ch\u00fang th\u1ed5i ph\u1ed5ng l\u00ean ba, b\u1ed1n ho\u1eb7c nhi\u1ec1u h\u01a1n th\u1ebf. Th\u1eadm ch\u00ed, c\u00f3 khi ch\u00fang c\u00f2n ngu\u1ef5 bi\u1ec7n “ph\u00f9 ph\u00e9p” nh\u1eefng khuy\u1ebft \u0111i\u1ec3m, sai l\u1ea7m c\u1ee7a ta th\u00e0nh “th\u00e0nh t\u00edch”. Nh\u1eefng k\u1ebb lu\u00f4n l\u1ea5y vi\u1ec7c “n\u1ecbnh b\u1ee3” \u0111\u1ec3 ti\u1ebfn th\u00e2n, khi\u1ebfn cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c khen ng\u00e0y c\u00e0ng t\u1ef1 \u0111\u00e1nh m\u1ea5t m\u00ecnh, xa r\u1eddi l\u1ebd ph\u1ea3i… Th\u1eadt \u0111\u00e1ng ti\u1ebfc l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng k\u1ebb \u0111\u00f3 th\u1eddi \u0111\u1ea1i n\u00e0o c\u0169ng c\u00f3. S\u1eed s\u00e1ch \u0111\u00e3 ghi l\u1ea1i kh\u00f4ng bi\u00eat bao nhi\u00eau b\u1eadc vua ch\u00faa \u0111\u00e3 b\u1ecb nh\u1eefng k\u1ebb n\u1ecbnh th\u1ea7n l\u00e0m cho u m\u00ea, d\u1eabn \u0111\u1ebfn h\u00e3m h\u1ea1i trung th\u1ea7n, tri\u1ec1u ch\u00ednh \u0111\u1ed5 n\u00e1t, x\u00e3 t\u1eafc suy vong. L\u1eddi d\u1ea1y c\u1ee7a Tu\u00e2n T\u1eed l\u1ea1i m\u1ed9t l\u1ea7n nh\u1eafc nh\u1edd m\u1ed7i ch\u00fang ta c\u1ea7n s\u00e1ng su\u1ed1t \u0111\u1ec3 nh\u1eadn ra \u0111\u00e2u l\u00e0 “b\u1ea1n ta” khen ta th\u1eadt l\u00f2ng; \u0111\u00e2u l\u00e0 “k\u1ebb vu\u1ed1t ve, n\u1ecbnh b\u1ee3” ta.<\/p>\n

Kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ec9 \u0111\u00fang v\u1edbi x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i x\u01b0a, m\u00e0 ng\u00e0y nay v\u00e0 v\u1edbi t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi, \u1edf tr\u00ean m\u1ecdi l\u0129nh v\u1ef1c, l\u1eddi d\u1ea1y c\u1ee7a Tu\u00e2n T\u1eed nh\u01b0 m\u1ed9t chi\u1ebfc k\u00ednh “chi\u1ebfu y\u00eau” gi\u00fap ch\u00fang ta nh\u1eadn ra ng\u01b0\u1eddi t\u1ed1t, k\u1ebb x\u1ea5u trong cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng, trong h\u1ecdc t\u1eadp. Khi kinh t\u1ebf th\u1ecb tr\u01b0\u1eddng m\u1edf c\u1eeda, th\u00ec \u0111\u1ed9i ng\u0169 nh\u1eefng k\u1ebb ch\u1ea1y theo l\u1ee3i nhu\u1eadn, v\u00ec danh, v\u00ec l\u1ee3i ng\u00e0y c\u00e0ng nhi\u1ec1u. Nh\u00e2n vi\u00ean n\u1ecbnh b\u1ee3 th\u1ee7 tr\u01b0\u1edfng, c\u1ea5p d\u01b0\u1edbi lu\u00f4n lu\u00f4n vu\u1ed1t ve, chi\u1ec1u \u00fd c\u1ea5p tr\u00ean; c\u00e1c b\u1ea1n l\u01b0\u1eddi h\u1ecdc th\u00ec xun xoe c\u00e1c b\u1ea1n h\u1ecdc gi\u1ecfi \u0111\u1ebf c\u1ea7u “phao c\u1ee9u tr\u1ee3\u201d trong thi c\u1eed, ki\u1ec3m tra… H\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng c\u1ee7a nh\u1eefng k\u1ebb \u0111\u00f3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 kh\u00e1c nhau, nh\u01b0ng \u0111\u1ec1u chung m\u1ed9t b\u1ea3n ch\u1ea5t: m\u01b0u c\u1ea7u l\u1ee3i \u00edch ri\u00eang t\u01b0. Nh\u01b0ng b\u1ea1n c\u0169ng v\u00ec nh\u1eefng hi\u1ec7n t\u01b0\u1ee3ng \u0111\u00f3 m\u00e0 \u0111\u00e1nh m\u1ea5t ni\u1ec1m tin v\u00e0o cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi. B\u1edfi ng\u01b0\u1eddi t\u1ed1t, nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi x\u1ee9ng \u0111\u00e1ng l\u00e0 “th\u1ea7y ta”, “b\u1ea1n ta” lu\u00f4n lu\u00f4n \u1edf b\u00ean ta. C\u00e2u n\u00f3i c\u1ee7a Tu\u00e2n T\u1eed, c\u0169ng l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t l\u1eddi nh\u1eafc nh\u1edf ch\u00ed t\u00ecnh, ch\u00ed l\u00ed cho ch\u00ednh m\u1ed7i ch\u00fang ta trong quan h\u1ec7 \u1ee9ng x\u1eed v\u1edbi m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi. Ch\u00fang ta mu\u1ed1n m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u00ea ta l\u00f2ng – nh\u01b0 Tu\u00e2n T\u1eed \u0111\u00e3 d\u1ea1y- ta ph\u1ea3i bi\u1ebft coi tr\u1ecdng nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00f3 nh\u01b0 b\u1eadc th\u1ea7y c\u1ee7a ta”. C\u0169ng v\u1eady, v\u1edbi b\u1ea1n b\u00e8, \u0111\u1ed3ng \u0111\u1ed9i, ta ph\u1ea3i s\u1ed1ng v\u1edbi c\u00e1i t\u00e2m ch\u00e2n th\u00e0nh d\u00e1m ch\u1ec9 ra nh\u1eefng khuy\u1ebft \u0111i\u1ec3m c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n m\u00e0 ta nh\u1eadn th\u1ea5y, v\u1edbi th\u1ee9c c\u1ea7u mong cho b\u1ea1n m\u00ecnh ng\u00e0y c\u00e0ng ho\u00e0n thi\u1ec7n. M\u1ed7i ch\u00fang ta c\u1ea7n bi\u1ebft “chia ng\u1ecdt s\u1ebb v\u1edbi b\u1ea1n b\u00e8 coi th\u00e0nh t\u00edch c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n l\u00e0m ni\u1ec1m vui chung c\u00f9ng chia s\u1ebb.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

\u0110\u1ec1 b\u00e0i: Anh\/ch\u1ecb ngh\u0129 g\u00ec v\u1ec1 c\u00e2u n\u00f3i c\u1ee7a Tu\u00e2n T\u1eed: ” Ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u00ea ta m\u00e0 ch\u00ea ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 th\u1ea7y c\u1ee7a ta, ng\u01b0\u1eddi khen ta m\u00e0 khen ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 b\u1ea1n… <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":9,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[417,442,49,35],"tags":[],"amp_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/onthitot.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9414"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/onthitot.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/onthitot.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/onthitot.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/9"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/onthitot.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=9414"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/onthitot.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9414\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/onthitot.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=9414"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/onthitot.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=9414"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/onthitot.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=9414"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}